Rude friends

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Rude friends

Postby Debbie584 » Tue Jan 02, 2018 11:28 am

Went out new years eve with a friend, first time I have been out in ages. She was asking how i was and how my last visit to Liverpool hospital went. Told her I had been diagnosed with ME and fibromyalgia. She then proceeded to lecture me on how these things are all on the head and I just think I am in pain so it then feels like I am. I tried to explain that the last thing I do is 'think I am in pain' and I have good days and bad days and the bad days is unbearable. Told her about my inflammatory markers are really high and she said well blood tests can be false!!! Came home feeling really low, that people and much more a friend thinks it's all in my head and I like feeling like this. Has anyone else experienced this?
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Re: Rude friends

Postby perseus » Tue Jan 02, 2018 11:38 am

Unfortunately a lot of people are like this and I lost many friends. When I was first diagnosed with ME in 1989 most GPs were cynical.
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Re: Rude friends

Postby Debbie584 » Tue Jan 02, 2018 11:49 am

Just felt hurt and embarrassed, my partner, GP
and my specialist have been really supportive it's the first time someone had made me feel like that. I don't want to be like this...its not a choice. She was saying that I need to get out more and do more stuff instead of wallowing in self pity (which i certainly don't do) was nearly in tears. I tried to explain the pain but she just brushed it off saying it's all in my head. In the end I said well you obviously know more than the consultants at Liverpool royal hospital, maybe you should ask then for a job!! It just keeps going round in my head now what other people think xx
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