Its my wife who has fibro. With small children and work, sometimes she really struggles. We pay for extra childcare, a cleaner, family members stay over to help etc. Problem is my wife NEVER EVER moans about it.
Then theres my Dad. Hes 82. Lives alone. Is in pretty decent health for his age. BUT, any minor illness he gets he moans and moans and moans. Expects me to drop everything to deal with him.
I've reminded him, probably 20 times now, that whereas I'll help where I can, I've got other people including an ill wife who rely on me too.
Xmas was a nightmare - he came to us xmas day and was awful. His manners and behaviour were appalling. I spend most of the day sorting him out and neglecting wife and kids. Today hes insisting I come to see him at the weekend (he lives 45 mins away) - I've already promised to do things with wife and kids which I expl;ained to him.
His answer "well, you're wife will have to understand I'm ill" and "there'll be other xmases for you to see the kids".
Anyone else had this problem? He just doesn't seem to get it. Its as if he thinks there is no such thing as fibro.