When is time to give up work?

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When is time to give up work?

Postby MairiHarper » Mon Sep 30, 2013 11:44 am

Hi all, I think this question has probably been asked before but I wonder when it's time to give up work? Apart from the finance side, I'm struggling to keep going. I come home from work mid afternoon, crash out asleep till the kids wake me up hungry for tea, feed them then its time to sit like a zombie until late. Poor sleep until I drag myself out of bed in the morning to start again. Weekends are split betweek zombie time and sleeping. It feels like I live to work and I'm getting to the place of asking if this is good enough. Just wondered what was the thing that finally decided peeps to give up work? Love to all x
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby shortnsweet54 » Mon Sep 30, 2013 11:55 am

sounds like now is the time Mairi. There comes a point when you have to look after your own health and well being and put that first.
Can you retire on health grounds maybe?
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby shelly-biddle » Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:01 pm

I was wondering the same thing, I work as cleaner and work from 6 til 10 and then have to come home and do housework, fetch my daughter from school and do tea. I have to nap most days and then still feel like ive not slept for months. Advice would be welcome here too lol.
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby Iceskatemum » Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:05 pm

Fraid it one of those questions only you can answer from your heart of hearts, the fact you are even asking possibly shows that you might be starting to think its the right time quite soon. I'm just out the other eside and can say you have to be physically & mentally ready to leave work. With me the physical meant I came away possibly a littel before I was mentally ready for it adn I have foundthe transition hard. To be honest still work ing on it !

What ever you decide look at all your options if you can get ill health retirement then go for that , look at all your benefits and see where you can makwe changes in your household budget now so that its not such a shock shoudl you come off. ( plus you might just be able to get a littel saving put by for the future.

Good luck and hope things work out.
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby wiltshireguy1982 » Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:06 pm

I have a similar issue, although I'm on Jobseekers allowance at the moment and haven't had a definite Fibromyalgia diagnosis.

However, I am being forced to apply for jobs that I cannot do (I have moderate-severe Asthma as well.) and I feel as if I would not manage to work, I could see myself losing a job in weeks, either due to a lot of time off work or because I wouldn't be able to give 100%.
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby FluppyPuffy » Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:42 pm

I'm with ISM Mairi :cow-wave: :cow-wave: With you asking about it, then it would suggest you're starting to think it might be getting to that point.

Have you spoken to your employer about how things are for you?? There may be some adjustments that could be made to your job to make it that bit more FM~friendly which could mean it doesn't take quite as much out of you.

It is something that only you can really decide if the time is right. But do make sure you look into all possible options and potential outcomes before making a final decision on such a major happening.
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby Subee » Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:43 pm

Earlier this year I was about ready to give up work. Since then I have moved teams (different team leader who understands), reduced my hours (gave up a Wednesday. Made a big difference mentally as well ad physically tho had to juggle finances!) And now feel much better. I would say have an open and honest conversation with your line manager. See if they can help with adjustments in any way, if u haven't already. Exhaust all avenues before u make a decision maybe? Good luck whatever u choose huni. Xx ps I also came off pregabalin which made me into a zombie 24/7. Now I can think straight ..... at last some of the time. :)

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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby Iceskatemum » Mon Sep 30, 2013 5:34 pm

So glad it all worked out for you Subee, :welldone:
isn't it amazing how a change in personnel & line managers to ones who care and understand can make such a difference. What a loss you would have been to your company , all that experience, training and expertise would have gone out of thier work system had you to leave. Now you get to stay in a job which is providing you with a reasonable income even though you had to reduce the hours , while your employer stil has access to all your experience.

Over all I would say a win win senario may you continue to be able to work for many years ahead , should that be what you choose to do rather than being made to by FM.
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby Lottebo » Mon Sep 30, 2013 5:40 pm

I was able to go down in days to 3 days a week which has meant such a big difference for me. For me it is so important to have a job both financially but also mentally. If I didn't work it would be easier for me to give up on a bad day but having my job means I have to keep going. I feel like I am in control not the fibro.
Try cutting down time/days first and see how you go before you give up completely.
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby MairiHarper » Mon Sep 30, 2013 6:43 pm

Thanks everyone x
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby LouLou » Tue Oct 01, 2013 10:45 am

Hi Mairi

I'm with the others on this one. As you are asking the question then now would be the time to do some serious thinking about your next step. I still work but had to cut my hours down a lot and move my start time to later in the morning to help me.

I wanted to try and stay in work not just because of the financial reasons but because I'm only 30 and I enjoy my job (most of the time lol) I wanted to see if I could carry on without it hindering my health too much.

As it stands things are working out at the moment and I manage to make it to work with hardly any time off. I still struggle, I still have the constant pain but I can manage it. Plus I find I can come home and sometimes still be a bit socialable and do things and still have a life. That was most important to me, I still wanted to have a life.

As ISM says, you do need to be mentally as well as physically ready for something like this as I can only imagine how tough it is to completly stop working. I found it so hard admitting I had to cut my hours and I still have days where I want to do more but I won't as I don't want to push my limits.

Definitely worth having a chat with your employer as you never know what can be done for you while you are figuring things out. Good Luck and I hope you are able to come to a decision that is best for you
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby Ashton » Tue Oct 01, 2013 12:43 pm

I'm in a similar situation.signed off sick for a month.love my job but all my energy is going into work.none left foe home or family and still not able to cope .realise now that I'm making myself worse by keep pushing myself.being at home now for two weeks make me realise how bad I am,can hover for ten minuted then overwhelmed with fatiuge.havent made any decisions about work but it may be out of my hands as I'm not capable of doing my job.recon you have to put your health first but that's hard to do when you need that money comming in
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby painprincess1 » Tue Oct 01, 2013 4:10 pm

dr kept telling me to stop work but i kept going untill i started to fell asleep at the wheel.that was 2 years ago and now i can stay awake all day but i do go to bed around 8 30.only u no when u have had enough love x
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby fibro-lu » Tue Oct 01, 2013 4:44 pm

fully agree with being mentally ready to leave
especially if you leave a job you like
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Re: When is time to give up work?

Postby Suzyhyde » Tue Oct 01, 2013 8:03 pm

Three years ago I was told after seeing five different specialist that had transverse mylitis so for two years still not feeling right bad pain in back and shoulders fizzing legs pain in elbows kept going to see the neurosurgeon then the last time I saw him I heard him say under his breath I hope I have diagnosed her right .went home found the only specialist for transverse mylitis .three hours travel agony,he did loads of test and told me my pain I was suffering was fibro myalgia still the same meds ? Anyhow I had a year off work to try to cope with pain .igot very depressed not seeing people feeling good for nothing .my son said try to get a part job I now work three days for four hours evan though still in pain I feel usefull again my metal state has improved they no what I can do and what I cannot do .i feel lucky to have a little job :so think carefully before giving up job see if can do a few hours for you sanity.hope all goes well for you :-D
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