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Here we go again

Postby nicola75 » Mon Mar 24, 2014 4:03 am

So here I am again having another flare!! :( For the last 2 weeks I've been living on 2 hours sleep a night and been in constant pain everywhere, it's really starting to get me down now.

I'm living on my own with my youngest 2 children (they're 8 and 10) and feel so guilty cos I can't do anything with them (it takes all my energy just to take them to and from school). Luckily for me they understand that I'm sick and things are really difficult for me, they never moan, they just get on and they help me alot.

I just want my life back to the way it was, working, having fun with my children, socialising....not the way it is now, I thought I had come to terms with having fm, but this latest flare has really got me and made me realise I haven't.....Do we ever really get used to having this awful condition??
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Re: Here we go again

Postby FluppyPuffy » Mon Mar 24, 2014 9:46 am

There are an awful lot of us feeling in a very similar state Nicola, so you're in good company :shock: :shock: :shock: Being a sole parent is draining and frustrating at the best of times, but it goes up to a whole new level when FM gets thrown into the mix :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm:

It sounds like you have 2 little angels living with you :blowkiss: :blowkiss: :blowkiss: Altho doing the types of things non~FM mums can do with their kids may be difficult, there will be things that you can all do together to give you some decent family time together. Have you thought of doing a movie day/morning/afternoon with them??? You could get a few treats and sweets and drinks together, get all comfy and snuggled up together on the sofa and watch favourite films, esp ones that will give you a good :lol: :lol: :lol: Altho offspring is now almost an adult, he still likes to watch things with us. The latest ones are the Despicable Me films, pretty much anything involving the Minions had me in tears with :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Re: Here we go again

Postby painprincess1 » Mon Mar 24, 2014 9:55 am

Hi sugar ,yes as Fluppy said it's very hard on a healthy mum let alone one with fibro,I have four myself but only one at home.shes 22months and of corse doesn't understand when something hurts.all you can do is ride the flare out the best you can. Sending u hugsxx
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Re: Here we go againa

Postby rolsy66 » Mon Mar 24, 2014 8:12 pm

Hi Nicola 75,
I totally understand how you are feeling, last month, I was suffering like and the gabapentine left me with a really bad cough, to the point of being sick.

I also am still trying to recover from back and shoulder surgery.

I was working full time, running a house of five and studying housing degree, with a deadline approaching in a fortnight . I didn't know where to turn. Sleep for more than the painkillers lasted was 2-3 hours. I do have a very understanding husband who does everything he can to manage my pain relief.

I saw my doctor, who is very understanding, she has prescribed me morphine to take a night, which is a slow release and need to take this 12 hours before I intend to get up.

Make an appointment and talk things through with your gp it will help, do you not have family or friends that can help, perhaps have the kids over night, to try and catch up with your sleep. I was on my own when my children were both under five and it was tough.

You will get through this, keep going for your kids and keep talking in here, it does help.

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Re: Here we go again

Postby denys » Tue Mar 25, 2014 12:28 am

Hope you feel a bit better soon, there seems to be a lot of posts about flares at the moment, wonder if this changeable weather has got anything to do with it all, one minute warm and the next freezing, cant be helping :shock: :shock: :shock:

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Re: Here we go again

Postby nicola75 » Tue Mar 25, 2014 6:43 am

Thank you all for your kind words, I managed to get an appointment with my doctor yesterday. Told her how bad I've been the last 2 weeks and she has given me a couple of days worth of sleeping tablets and has done some more bloods as I have an underactive thyroid too. Anyway took 1 last night and have managed 4 hours rather than 2 so its a little better.
We do watch a lot of movies fluppy i'm lucky with that one, as my kids are happy as long they're with me, we do enjoy our snuggles :-D
Got they're birthdays coming up (1 at the weekend and 1 next week) so I'm gonna try to rest up as much as possible this week while they're in school. got to start listening to my body like the doc said, I do tend to push myself too much. Thanks again guys, this site keeps me sane. Gentle hugs
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Re: Here we go again

Postby LouLou » Wed Mar 26, 2014 12:52 pm

Hi nicola

I hope things carry on improving for you. Like the others have said a lot of us are struggling at the moment. For me personally the weather has had a knock on effect. One minute it's lovely and sunny then the next it's damp cold and bitter. My body has no idea what's going on lol.

I hope things go well for your lil ones birthday weekend.

You are right to rest up while you can and hopefully the sleeping tablets will help you recover.
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