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Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby Theresa34 » Mon May 05, 2014 7:12 pm

I've made the conscious decision not to let this horrible condition rule my life. I feel that its too easy to allow chronic pain to control our lives. I don't want that. I don't want to end up bed bound or stuck on the sofa staring at the telly/four walls. I want to live. I am taking my pain meds and Amitriptyline plus vitamin D. I still have bad stiffness and pain which the painkillers take the edge off. I have three young kids and a house to run. I cannot wallow in self pity. It doesn't help me or anyone else. I honestly think that a positive attitude can go a long way. I am still young and definitely not ready to throw in the towel just yet :-D Anyone else feel this way?
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby johnashu » Tue May 06, 2014 12:32 am

im 32 and have had fm for at least 2 years!

it crushed me the change and still does..

positive attitude is definatley what spurs me on.

i find myself saying the ujsual, whats the point, itll prob hurt more if i do.. etc etc

but to get out of that mental state its just kinda mjotivational crack.

come on john, just do it, just get the **** up.. come on, your wasting time, youll regret it.. etc..

and it works!

the thing is, it only seems to work when i say it to myself..

this is because I am the only one who truly understands, therefore i am the best person to motivate myself..

when other people say it, i think they dont understand fully!

learn to motivate or keep motivating yourself.. you may be the only person you will listen to.

well that is what i think.. and ill be honest, it doesnt always work, but a lot of the time it does and a lot of wallowing unnecessarily would have occurred!

I really want to apply the same to playing football, tennis etc but one step at a time!!

im less scared of every movement in case of drastically prolonged pain for example lol
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby SchroedingersCat » Tue May 06, 2014 8:41 am

Yup. Sheer bloodymindedness all the way. I'm 48, still working full time, and on no meds. As someone on here once said, I have fibro, fibro doesn't have me.
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby Theresa34 » Tue May 06, 2014 1:42 pm

Thank you both for the responses x I don't want to sit and moan about how unfair life has been to me. I've already done that. I felt at the time that I went through some kind of grief you know? But something inside me changed and luckily for the better. What's the point in complaining? Does it make me feel any better? No! Will it change anything? Nope! I dont want to be pessimistic. It doesn't help, and it doesn't change anything. This is the hand I have been dealt. I need to get on with it? I don't know if I said in my first post, but I am 34 diagnosed in Feb this year, suffering since last year (diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis last year too). I have three kids, two dogs, a hubby and a house to deal with. And I am thankful for that. Because they all keep me moving forward :-D
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby johnashu » Tue May 06, 2014 2:14 pm

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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby johnashu » Tue May 06, 2014 2:16 pm

and im sure someone already said this.

never feel bad about having a good moan..

its healthy..

the more you moan the less you moan, because the more you moan, the more you see how little moaning changes things , if anything..

it also gives a bit relief..

you deserve you moan if you need :)
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby Theresa34 » Tue May 06, 2014 4:59 pm

Yes, I am still in pain, and ache constantly. I've been working really hard sorting the housework out and the house. I wont go as far as redecorating as that is a lot of repetitive movement when painting and reaching up and down. But I am trying to keep myself busy by catching up on things and sorting things out. I find that I am more stressed around mess. So tidying is in a way therapeutic despite my aches and pains. I used to moan a lot which was annoying hubby a bit and I started to feel that if it was him maybe it would annoy me too lol So now i dont do it as much but when I do, I feel he listens to me more. He also comes to my appointments to the nurse, rheumy and now the physio so he can hear all of whats going on with me without it being a moan etc.

A positive mind cant go wrong, can it? A negative one can make you feel worse. I don't want to be stuck on the sofa or in bed and have my life waste away. I need to move. I suppose its good that I am a stubborn person :lol:
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby johnashu » Tue May 06, 2014 11:05 pm

I am a Bi-polatic-Fibromyalgic.. I am Obsessive and Sceptical. I am a right Polymath..

"The only way to be always right, is to change your mind when you are proved wrong. Celebrate your mistakes as knowledge gained"
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby carolad » Tue May 06, 2014 11:27 pm

I think a positive attitude can be a big help in living with any chronic illness. But I think it is a stage that you have to come to yourself...probably after all the stages of grief, anger, self pity etc..once you come out the other side of all that, you can start to feel more positive about your life. There is nothing worse than someone else saying to you 'it could be worse, there are people worse off than you'!! While we all know that's true, you don't want to hear it when you are going through a bad time yourself - it doesn't help.

But if you can come to this realisation yourself, it does help. If you can try and concentrate on what you can do, rather than what you can't...if you can find pleasure in small things every day, it does help. I saw a quote recently 'The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for'. That's so true :) I may be tired and in pain..but I have food to eat, I have a warm home..I have hundreds of good things in my life and I try not to lose sight of that when I'm having a bad day.

That's not to say I'm positive all the time! I get grumpy and down sometimes...but I try not to let that take over :)
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby johnashu » Tue May 06, 2014 11:34 pm

I am a Bi-polatic-Fibromyalgic.. I am Obsessive and Sceptical. I am a right Polymath..

"The only way to be always right, is to change your mind when you are proved wrong. Celebrate your mistakes as knowledge gained"
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby carolad » Wed May 07, 2014 1:05 am

Yep! That's just what life is...sometimes good stuff, sometimes bad stuff...and it never ever works out the way you think it will!

So accepting your current state and adapting is the key.

And I think most people are fighting some battle that the rest of us know nothing about - whether it's their own or a relative's physical or mental illness, or worrying about money, or dealing with bereavement or infertility or divorce...Life is hard for everyone at times. You just have to find a way to try and make the most of your life and be grateful for the positives :)
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby johnashu » Wed May 07, 2014 1:35 am

I am a Bi-polatic-Fibromyalgic.. I am Obsessive and Sceptical. I am a right Polymath..

"The only way to be always right, is to change your mind when you are proved wrong. Celebrate your mistakes as knowledge gained"
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby Theresa34 » Wed May 07, 2014 8:09 pm

I am a fibro fighter not a fibro sufferer. I will keep fighting from the minute I get up til the minute I go to bed.
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Re: Using positivity and not giving in to this condition

Postby Theresa34 » Wed May 07, 2014 8:13 pm

John, I wouldn't want anyone to force a positive attitude but I cant see the harm in encouraging it. We cant be positive all the time, but most of the time, maybe? I've been through a lot with the chronic pain as we all have. But I didn't want to let this thing get to me. I found a good saying the other day, I am not fibromyalgia...I am what kicks its butt every morning when I get out of bed :lol:
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