GETTING A GOOD GP/MEDICAL DOCTOR - ANY ADVICE???

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GETTING A GOOD GP/MEDICAL DOCTOR - ANY ADVICE???

Postby sjc » Thu Dec 29, 2011 6:50 pm

Hello folks...... :-D

Just wondering if any of you are like me......Well, over the years of having support from the NHS and social services, I have noticed that 20% of the staff I see from the NHS/Social services are decent enough.....Yeah, they might not be perfect, but generally some are ok enough.......BUT, a majority of the health workers that I see are strange characters.....Some NHS staff/social workers are either unsympathetic towards those with a hidden disability; some staff are just plain rude and show no compassion; or you get those that are perhaps one minute they are ok with you and then the next minute, they are not so as enthusiatic with helping you..... :-?

For example, I went to see a young male GP today, and when I first talked to him some time ago, he seemed really nice....but today, I really felt uncomfortable in his presence...Some of the things I said to him, he just frowned out....I felt a little uncomfortable to be honest....I have had only one male GP who I used to get one with from my GP surgery who was fantastic, be sadly he retire a few months ago....

To be honest, most of the GP's at my doctor's surgery are good doctors, but they lack people skills and do not seem to show much compassion, especially towards those with hidden disabilities......I cannot go register with another GP surgery, because I cannot travel that far due to my disabilities, so I am stuck with my curent GP practice.....

I know that when you are ill that one becomes sensitive to things - so when people say things to me, I do admit I do take things literal.....But I wish I could get a good GP that is understanding, creative and knows how to communicate sensitively to their patients......I do not want to complain to my doctor's surgery, because I do not want to look like I am moaning or being silly....

So I just wondered if anybody else has the same issues with getting a good doctor-to-patient relationship with their GP, doctor, etc...?

Take care folks....xxxx :-)
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Re: GETTING A GOOD GP/MEDICAL DOCTOR - ANY ADVICE???

Postby FluppyPuffy » Thu Dec 29, 2011 7:34 pm

The only medical bod I really had a problem with was the rheumy who dxd me. He was rather brusque to say the least, no people skills at all. GP wise, maybe I've been lucky as so far they have all been brilliant :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: **quick scrabble around for something wooden, all that is available is OH's head** The way I approach my appts may have something to do with it now as well, as I go with various things printed up, including what I'm needing to ask/know about. It's known that I'm active online as well, so my GP seems to acknowledge that I have a bit of an understanding of things, and seems to treat accordingly. There's no patronising tone, or dismissing of symptoms and problems, just straight talking about what has been raised, pros and cons to the various ideas, then the possibilities/options and potential consequences/outcomes.

Have you got a support group in your area, or a CFS/ME group?? Not to attend, as I know you've mentioned problems with getting around, but to contact by phone or email to see if they can recommend any decent drs, or even tell you which ones should be avoided due to how they treat people, attitude to illnesses/conditions etc.
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Re: GETTING A GOOD GP/MEDICAL DOCTOR - ANY ADVICE???

Postby sjc » Thu Dec 29, 2011 7:47 pm

Hi fluppypuffy - hope you are ok and thanks for the comment.......Where I live in Derbyshire is a strange place, as most of the groups to do with fibro/ME/Depression, etc....are a bus ride away, then you have to walk to the group a good 10 minutues walk once you have travelled all the way - and having me problems that I have is abit difficult to get to them sometimes....I love to one day set my own group up directly in my village or exactly in Derby City where it will be easier for people like me to access.....

I used to have a really good GP once, and he was one of them doctors that always listen, never judged you and if you asked him to try a certain treatment or medication, he would be open-minded about it.....But the other GP's/doctors I have saw are abit strange, in terms that they may be nice people but they are not open minded about things, or they do not know how to communicate effectively, or they do not seem to know about the conditions I have got.......

I think it does make a difference if you can relate to you doctor and feel comfortable in their presence....I have a social worker, for exanple, at the moment, and she is one of them people that if I am not happy with something, she is willing to change things and take in suggestions....which is good......But you don't seem to get many specialists that welcome patients ideas..... :-o


Anyway, take care......all the best.....Have a nice new year....xxxx
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Re: GETTING A GOOD GP/MEDICAL DOCTOR - ANY ADVICE???

Postby FluppyPuffy » Thu Dec 29, 2011 8:24 pm

sjc wrote:[i]......Where I live in Derbyshire is a strange place, as most of the groups to do with fibro/ME/Depression, etc....are a bus ride away, then you have to walk to the group a good 10 minutues walk once you have travelled all the way - and having me problems that I have is abit difficult to get to them sometimes....I love to one day set my own group up directly in my village or exactly in Derby City where it will be easier for people like me to access.....


I know what you mean about travelling as I'm in a similar position, can't go out alone, so everything I need to do is arranged around OHs shifts, if not I wouldn't be able to get there. It was this that made me think about contacting any local groups by phone or email to see what they can suggest drs wise rather than travelling to a meeting.
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