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GP had an off day

Postby Melbi_UK » Fri May 18, 2012 11:20 am

I can't believe it! My GP who has always been very supportive has been horrible today!

He has received the letter from the hospital about increasing my pregabalin and that I have to stay on all the other meds. Now my GP has just told me I need to start coming off some of the meds as I'm now maxed out on them all but still in pain. He even forgot I was having physio and said it was about time I went there as it is the stiffness that is causing the pain. He basically was saying things as if to say he doesn;t believe in fibromyalgia and that until I start exercising and getting my body going I will always have pain. When I reminded him of all the exercise I'm doing at physio and home he just smirked. He said I'm fatigued all the time because I don't do enough exercise and that he is going to start reducing my meds until I am no longer on them. This is the same GP who afew weeks when I asked if I could come off some meds told me no.

Thank goodness I'm under the hospital otherwise I'd be feeling worse than I am. I only went due the the hospital writing to him so need the pregabalin putting on repeat for the new dose and got a right lecture from him.

Then at the end he had the nerve to ask me to sign a form so he can become a permanent doctor at that surgery!!!! Thing is, I have seen him for several years, when he moved, we followed him as we have always found him so supportive and friendly. What the hell happened to him today I have no clue, but I know one thing for sure, I will no longer be going again for anything. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby Melbi_UK » Fri May 18, 2012 11:23 am

Forgot to mention I had taken the stuff they inject you with for my shoulder, but was too scared to ask him to do it so brought it back home again.
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby denys » Fri May 18, 2012 4:15 pm

Melbi its horrible when that happens, is there any others at the surgery that are understanding??? the only other thing I could suggest is to give it a few days and go and see him again to ask why he has suddenly turned 180 degrees and is making you feel very misunderstood. Could the surgery nurse do the injection for you :?: :?: :?: :?: :?: :?:
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby Ldyalb » Fri May 18, 2012 6:37 pm

I had this with my parents GP the first time I saw him. My parents waxed lyrical about how wonderful he was but he just seemed rude to me. He criticised my moving from London to Lincs (on previous Drs advice as I need supervision and that could only happen at home with the parentals) as I'd struggle to find work here. My Mum also saw him that day and he didn't sign her off, when he had been for weeks due to a back problem. She suspected he'd had an off day as he's normally good. This was a Friday, when she went again on the Monday he was back to normal and signed her off.

I saw him a few weeks ago due to being desperate to see a Dr and he was great.

I think everyone can have an off day, maybe one of his patients had died/been diagnosed with something terminal etc. But an off day doesn't excuse rudeness so if I were you I'd see him in a few days and if he's still funny with you ask him why he's suddenly changed his attitude towards you. In the meantime I would ask if a Nurse can do your injection for you like Denys suggested, or try a different Dr and see if they can do it.

If he is still rude to you next time I'd consider speaking to the Practice Manager. Might be time for them to do some refresher courses on bedside manner!
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby Melbi_UK » Fri May 18, 2012 7:11 pm

Thank you so much for your replies. Unfortunately the nurse isn't qualified to do this injection as it is done between 2 bones in the shoulder and if they miss it can leave me worse than I am now. (This is what I was told by the receptionist) but at my old surgery they said the same and that this is qualified to do them????

I've been under this doctor for years and as I mentioned, when he left we followed him.

I'm not sure if I would be up to seeing him again in a few days or even weeks as he has really knocked my confidence with fibro plus it has now triggered another bout of depression (hopefully not long lasting, but I am now in a situation where in my head I just couldn't give a toss anymore and will plod on by myself. To be honest I just think he doesn't like prescribing pregabalin because it is so expensive - damn him!

No! If I need to see a doctor for anything else in the future I'll wait until the surgery is closed and go to the walk in centre, but I will tell my counsellor on Tuesday when I go to see her.

He really has left me feeling cheated, confused and stressed. To add to things, when I went to Boots to collect my prescription and was askked my name, I came out with any name but my own. Was so embarrassing as other people were waiting for their prescriptions too. The lady was lovely about it and in the end we both had a laugh about it.

Thank you again for the support xx
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby *Lisa* » Sat May 19, 2012 1:55 pm

You say the hospital wrote him a letter about the medication... Is this the pain clinic? rheumatologist? as your GP im sure must go by the consultants as they are the ones qualified in your condition and must do as they ask and if comolications appear then the GP forward you back.

If the pain is still bad and your on tablets that do not help then this also needs reasessing. The GP should be treating symptoms. He should also see that you are having physio and exercising and tryin your best to help but still in need of pain relief.

Maybe see another GP at the surgery and explain what happened with the appointment and how you move on from here as it knocked your confidence which has resulted in your depression being worse.
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby shazq » Sat May 19, 2012 4:00 pm

Hi
Do you have another Gp who you could go to see? if you do then ask them to do the injection.

Dont let this GP knock your confidence you are living with a chronic condition and you will need the help of a GP, he cant make you stop the meds if the hospital specialist has put you on them. :goodluck1:
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby Melbi_UK » Sat May 19, 2012 7:59 pm

It was the rheumy who also is working closely with the psychiatrist as some med I can't have if the other one has prescribed something so they confer with each other. I say hospital as it could have been either one of them that wrote to him as a result of the set up between them.

It's the painkillers that are allowing me to do physio and be as active as is possible but he is expecting them to take all the pain away.

I've decided, after talking to my hubby that it would be best we write to him as if I go to see him or another Gp I know I will break down and could lead to a major anxiety attack, which I don't want as I am dealing with these so well at the moment and learning how to avoid attacks.

We have printed a information sheet about fibro which we will include with the letter. If we get no satisfaction from that then I can contact my pysch and get an emergency appointment. I'll keep you all informed and thank you for being so supportive xx
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby shari » Sat May 19, 2012 8:05 pm

You cant allow this to stop you seeing a dr again. This happened to me. You should do 2 things. Firstly, change doctors. As a rule all GP surgeries have a GP who you can change to, just put it in writing.
Secondly, you need to write a letter to the practice manager. Even if this dr was having an 'off' day, that's no your problem.
If you cant change doctors, have a discreet word with a decent receptionist. Ask who they would recommend you seeing. You do not
have to see your own GP. You are always entitled to a second opinion.
I was in your position. I complained, I changed GP's. I got an apology.
You are the most important person here. But please don't give up on the medical proffesion. Over the past yr, I have met idiots,
rude doctors, and a unpleasant rheumy. Through this site, and others, I have educated myself to know more than a lot of the doctors I see.
Please see another doctor.
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby Melbi_UK » Sat May 19, 2012 8:15 pm

I'll try the letter frist as I have been under him for several years and he asked me if I'd like to move when he moved (against the practise policy) as he has treated me for years for depression and anxiety and has always been brilliant and understanding. I still think it is the letter and the expense of all the meds that I am on now on top of the depression and anxiety meds. It is a very small practise so only one other doctor there and had to see him once when my doctor was on holiday and he was crap! He said I shouldn't be on pregabalin at all as this is not used for fibromyalgia LOLOLOLOL, what a dimwit he is. Oh! And this doctor asked me why I suffered depression and anxiety because I'm such a nice person!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So only horrible people suffer??????????? oh my!!!!

There is a surgery at the walk in centre so if nothing changes with my gp then I can move there, shame if that has to happen as my gp only moved 4 months ago!
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby shazq » Sat May 19, 2012 10:49 pm

Here is a NHS site on treatments used for fibro print it off and show it to your doc,it might be of help to you.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Fibromyalg ... tment.aspx
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Re: GP had an off day

Postby Melbi_UK » Sun May 20, 2012 7:31 pm

Thanks Shaz, I will include it in the letter. At the moment I am trying to wean myself off all tablets. Stubbornness I guess but if he thinks he knows best then I shall go with him. I know before being diagnosed with it I was literally bedridden and was begging to be referred to someone, to which he referred me to the Rheumy. That was in October so not that long ago.
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