by tireesix » Sun Mar 14, 2010 6:10 pm
I don't know, I don't think it is possible to comment on other people when we do not know them. People see me doing things, things I shouldn't be doing but the have know idea how much what I am doing hurts and how much it is going to cost me. I do things because I have no choice.
An example - a couple of years ago we moved house. My DH was pretty much completely incapable, so the packing and unpacking was down to me, we had no one who could help us (and I mean no one). I was 32 weeks pregnant, I was in so much pain, my pelvis was totally shot (SPD), I literally WANTED to die, I don't know how I managed to do it, but I did.
I guess I have learnt, thanks to having so little help, to just grit my teeth and get on with it and I refuse to give in to the pain until the job that needs doing is finished. I guess some people might think 'well you can't have been in that much pain then', but I have gotten on with stuff despite having had broken bones, dislocated joints etc because I haven't had anyone to fall back on to ask for help. Once what ever the job I am doing is over, then I take the pain meds, I go lie down and I cry until I fall asleep and spend the next few days being as gentle with myself as possible.
I reckon that there is a huge issue with fakers taking up money for those that really need it but we shouldn't be the ones pointing fingers cos that is just as bad as what other people do to us when we are having a rare ok day.
Katie X